Rooted in nature, bliss, & queer kinship.

For me, a paq means a lifeline, a tether to bliss, and a source for imaginative dreaming and doing.

Hey, I'm Wilder (them/her) founder of The PAQ. I’m a queer, poly-passionate facilitator and licensed school counselor with 18 years of multinational youth work experience and leadership. I was raised by the East Coast, (Massachusetts) and have lived across the US and in Toronto, Canada working in youth and community care-centered spaces. I’m a Bridgewater State University (BA) and Providence College (MEd) alumna with coast-to-coast coaching and curating experience. I’m an introverted Aquarius, rescue dog mom, and snack enthusiast who currently lives in the woods of Maryland.

I leverage my passion and expertise in summer camp magic, SEL strategies, and radical compassion to create resources for cultivating affirming learning spaces and pollinate LGBTQIA+ connections through queer bliss spaces.

While living in the borderlands of Arizona I lived alongside two wolves, Anubis and Feliz. Both the wolves and borderlands nurtured my belief in the power of the wolf pack and pack mentality; Everyone is cared for. Everyone is looked after. Everyone has a role. This is the vision for The PAQ and my hope for our world. I believe in a softer, sweeter humanity and believe it starts with how we care about each other.

I care deeply about building joyful and welcoming spaces for people to show up fully to learn, to play to celebrate, and to be cared for.

𖡡 The Queer Moon Cabaret - York, PA
𖡡 Queer Camp Day- Suny Corning Community College
𖡡 Vintage Queer -Vanderbilt Univeristy, TN
𖡡 MA Alliance of Boys & Girls Clubs Summer Conference- Billerica, MA
𖡡 The LGBTour BGCD - Dorchester, MA
𖡡 The LGBTour URI - Kingston, RI
𖡡 Camp Out - Vandy

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What PAQ clients are saying:

“It is obvious you are smart and talented, but you are a rare soul and I was moved by your compassion and dedication to taking care of our children, who are often overlooked. The world is becoming more aggressive and people are in danger of physical harm. We have to offer protection and change. Thank you for EVERYTHING!”
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“She was terrific! I think that was the best professional development day we have had since I have been here. I hope Tina can come back for further training.”
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“What an amazing day of learning, evolving, and growing. Today was incredibly timely and meaningful for our students, our community, and ourselves.”
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“I just want to thank you for such a powerful presentation today! Your passion and expertise certainly gained you a fan club! I am already asking when we can have you come back so we can continue the momentum and enrich our school culture with more knowledge and understanding.”
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“Thank you so much for visiting our class yesterday. It was honestly one of the best workshops that I have attended. I am so grateful to have been a part of it.”
“This camp out was one of my best university experiences. It felt like genuine community care and not the superficial marketable kind. I also learned so much! About witches, querness in the South, mutual aid, ecology in Middle Tennessee. And they brought queens?! Best Saturday ever.”
“Camp Out is a community that felt like returning to home. A home often I don't feel like I have day to day on campus. This conference reminded me that I do have community and encouraged me to be myself in ways that I hadn't embraced in a while. This experience was nourishing in the sense that I feel safer knowing I am not alone. All of the activities and conversations were brilliantly curated + all of the counselors made us feel like for once we could be together and just have some normalcy amidst everything going on. It is a very scary time right now in the world and I know we're all scared though this weekend renewed my hope. It is so important to see queer and trans elders — which through this experience it reminded me that I have a future to grow into.”
“The magic was still there. To have not only a queer community to return to, but specifically a Vanderbilt queer community that knows how to combine their academic rigor, their ability to play and be silly, and their ability to form heartfelt connections was incredible. Running a presentation where everyone was engaged and sharing experiences in a way that educated each other more than we could ever hope to educate them on our own. The drag queens were also incredible, and blended drag history, culture, and performance with interactive activities that made us actually FEEL what that culture might mean, all while having a total blast. I loved the activities facilitated by Cedar Crest camp as well—they are all incredible at what they do, and it elevated the experience even further. Finally, the precise management of energy throughout to get people excited but also leave time to rest was absolutely incredible.”
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